As a pastor, you would think I’d have this parenting thing figured out. But I must confess that when my then three-year-old defiantly refused to wear his Thomas the Train underwear, I wasn’t thinking about Hebrew exegesis. (Little did I know, his older brothers had convinced him Thomas was for babies.) My first inclination, and perhaps greatest desire, was obedience. My biggest hope for him in the moment was behavior modification.

Paul Tripp recently reminded me and hundreds of other parents—representing over 50 churches throughout Arizona—to get to the heart of the matter at our TGC Arizona Parenting Conference. God places parents in the lives of their kids to achieve so much more than mere behavior modification; he places us in their lives to turn their little hearts toward a great Savior. They need to see and savor the same grace that saved their mommies and daddies.